11 Kristen Part 2-Blighted Ovum Scare, SPD & Her FAST Labor Birth Story

Kristen is back to talk about her birth story with baby Georgie. After suffering a miscarriage, a subchorionic hemorrhage, and a 30+ hour first labor she decided she was ready for another baby. She talks to Heidi about suffering from SPD (symphysis pubis dysfunction) and her ever-present churning nausea with Baby #2 and what did and didn’t work for curbing it. Kristen's favorite baby product is the Quick Zip Crib Sheet.

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Quick, zip products also include a hundred percent happiness guarantee who doesn't love that. So there's no risk in ordering because there's free shipping free returns with us orders. Hey, I've got Kristin here again for part two of her birth stories. So we'd heard from Kristen about her kind of journey with the loss of a baby and then her beautiful.

Full birth story of her son that was very long, 30 hour labor. And now Kristen's back in his studio to share with us about baby number two. And this is a wild story. So welcome Krista. Thank you. Glad to be, be back again. Okay. Let's talk about how you found out you were pregnant with baby number two. So honestly it was a lot of course, I think with your second or third or.

Sixth kid. Um, it's just not as, I don't know, it wasn't as in tune with my body. So was it another surprise? It wasn't a surprise. Um, but it wasn't as planned, I think, like we were ready, but we've just kind of like seeing what was happening without like timing or any of that kind of stuff. Mr. Period. Kinda knew, you know, just kind of knew, took the test and it was positive.

So how, um, at this point, how old was your oldest that we just heard? It just had his third birthday. Okay. So you have a three year old toddler. Okay. Very busy boy. And I was working full time at this point too. So, um, we had a very busy lifestyle. Yeah. Took the test and actually like sat on it for the day.

Um, I took it in the morning and didn't tell my husband until that night, just because I was just waiting for the right moment. And again, like with a three year old at home, like there's not, it's chaotic, so deaf to say the least. Yeah. So I wanted to like, wait until he was in bed. Like I could, you know, share the news, um, with him.

Um, just the two of us. Yeah. He was excited. He ran out and bought Bobby Flowers right away, which was very nice. Um, yeah, six weeks pregnant. The nausea hits. And I was nauseous with my first, but this was like another level. Um, there was definitely some vomiting, you know, wanting to throw up after you've brushed your teeth.

You know, that toothbrush just makes it yeah. Yeah. It was WRAL smells too. Oh my gosh. And my husband was going through this like Asian cooking phase, which we love Asian food. Love it. Mike will lead almost anything, but he wanted to make it at home. And I was like, please stop with the fish size, you know, stuff.

This is awesome. Yeah. I just can't make this stuff up. So. So, yeah, so I was super sick. If you listened to the first story, you'll know about the heartbeat thing. Well, this one we went in and, um, it was Christmas time when like my first appointment was coming up and I had had some spotting. And as soon as I saw that, the first time I was like, Oh no, I can't to have this happen again.

So we go in and it was a little early. And so they had done an ultrasound, which I wrote, I don't think they liked doing ultrasounds at six weeks because. You may or may not see anything. Um, and so they prepared me for that, but they saw a sack, but they didn't see the fetal pole. Okay. Um, so I was still very early.

Yeah. Still very early. And it was Christmas and we were, we were, it was a year that we were going to go to his family in Pennsylvania. So I was like, great. I'm pregnant, but it's. Like a, again, the ultrasound tech and the doctor were both saying, prepare yourself for that. You might not see anything in my mind.

And then my doctor Google on my iPhone, sitting in the waiting Ram. I'm like, great. I have a blighted ovum, which is, I think your body, I think you do fertilize an egg, but like in your body thinks you're pregnant, but like nothing attaches or nothing grows or something, I don't know an empty sack. So basically I was like, great, I'm going to miscarry again.

I'm going to have to go see 35 people in our family and I'm sick as a dog, you know, I can barely function. I'm so sick. Um, so it was, we wanted to cancel our plans, but we didn't. Um, we just knew that we would be going back to the doctor after Christmas, after new years and know for sure about what's happening.

So that was hard. Uh, it was, um, we had another pregnancy announcement in the family over the holiday, and so. That was kind of like a punch to the gut. Um, you know, that makes me hurt. I was like, I'm pregnant too, but I was in such a dark place. It was like, it's not going to be anything I'm gonna miss here again.

And it was hard. Um, so we made it through, um, we ended up telling some people because I was just. I couldn't function. I couldn't socialize. I couldn't do anything. Um, I just felt so sick. And so it was kind of obvious. Yeah, I was expecting. Um, so at any point, did you think, like me being the sick is a good thing?

Yes. Yeah. Some people told me that and I've brushed it off at the time, you know, but I knew that as well, long as I was still so sick that I was still pregnant. Yeah. You know, and I did know, I mean, I wasn't totally off my rocker. Like I knew that it was a little early for that ultrasound, so there was hope there was still hope.

So we went back after the new year and. Good heartbeat. There's the baby. Everything's fine. Thank God. Yeah. So operation for new years. Yeah. So we've got a due day and all of this stuff. Um, and so, so I was just super ill for the first, this last year, the blogger 22 weeks, I think, like head in the toilet.

And I did take Zofran for nausea, but I didn't and for vomiting. Cause I wasn't like, um, Vomiting all the time. It was just occasionally, but I was feeling so nauseous. Um, but I didn't realize that Zofran makes everything stop. So like constipation. Okay. Okay. I was like, where's she going? Bad? Oh yeah. I think it your whole digestive system or something.

I don't know. And none of that's like a pregnancy symptom. I think audio exacerbates it or can exacerbate. And so that made me feel more sick. So I was like, I can't did the girlfriend take away the nausea? No, no, it didn't work the only, and I started to learn about sour things. So like I lived at, Chick-fil-A getting like giant lemonades from Chick-fil-A.

There's also like this iced passion tea at Starbucks that is kind of sour and it's so good. And I drink it anyways. And so I like lived on that stuff. I'll put all that in the show notes because I don't, I w I don't know what that too. Yeah, it was very good. Yeah. Um, and it's, and you have to get the unsweetened, so.

That's sour. Cause when you're so sick like that. Yeah, it helps. Um, and then yeah, um, I learned to eat, just push through and just eat. Yup. Oh, I ate a lot of Greek yogurt for the protein and the fat devil fat yogurt. I eat a lot of chicken nuggets.  girl, whatever you can get in. I ate a lot of, um, those bacon, egg, and cheese sandwiches from Laurel Laurel market.

And I, you know, I was like, I don't care how much weight I gain. I just, I need to not feel sick. Yeah. So I learned that when I had protein and fat in my stomach, it helped. Okay. Um, so. I learned to manage it. I learned to live through that nausea, um, which at times was very difficult, but yeah. Did 22 weeks about that a really long time, man.

It just, so you never got diagnosed with any kind of condition? No, it wasn't. Like I had. Whatever that Kate Middleton has. That's the only person that I know of any Schumer right now on Instagram. She's hysterical and about it. Yeah. It's I can't even imagine. I mean, it's not hysterical, but her posts are hysterical.

I don't know how she had that. I don't know how that Kate Middleton has had three kids. Yeah. More power to her. So I'm 22 weeks and the nausea 23 weeks start the, the pubis synthesis. Dysfunction. Okay, go on, please enlighten us. All of a sudden, I get this literal pain in the crotch that just kills. So some of my clients have described it as a lightning bolt.

Yeah. What'd you describe it that way? It just feels odd. It just feels like. A broken bone. I don't know. It was awful. I couldn't walk. I couldn't sit. And I was, had a desk. I'm an accountant. So like I had a desk job. Um, Can't walk though. And like, I mean, with my first pregnancy, I was walking right. Miles every day up until the day I delivered.

And so, so, you know, and when I have a three year old, um, so I sit at a desk all day, setting hurts and then I chase my kid yeah. Around, you know, before and after that. Um, and so it was, and we have a dog, you know, so, and I've got a house to manage and, you know, you just have stuff to do and you can't just sit around.

And there were nights where I was crawling up the stairs to tuck my kid into bed. Um, because I was in so much pain. What did your doctor say about it? He said, there's nothing you can do. Um, The only thing you can do is deliver. Um, and I, I also went to the CA uh, chiropractor. Um, I, I really believe in chiropractic whether you're pregnant or not.

I think all of those adjustments got things in perfect alignment. Yes. Plus that SPD. Yeah. Basically my doctor said that the gate is opening before it needs to, so I think basically like your pelvis opens up a little bit. Yep. Is that right? Um, Yeah. So, especially with that, relax in that hormone. Okay. The bones just kind of shift.

Yeah. Especially on baby. Number two, you're set. The gate is opening before, you know, you're in labor and you know, as soon as you have this baby, probably two weeks after you'll feel totally. Back to normal. Okay. Cause it, you know, you get to the point, I'm never gonna walk again. I'm never gonna feel better again.

Or you feel like you actually are going to break your pelvis. It felt like it was broken. I mean, it really did. I've never broken my pelvis actually, but I imagine it's pretty close. Um, so that was difficult. Um, so it was a more physically challenging pregnancy. Other than that, the nausea and the SPD though, right?

That's my only complaints with it. And I was huge. Also two big complaints. So how much weight did you gain? Thank you. 40 pounds with each pregnancy. Um, but with my second, I started heavier than I did with my first, um, only about seven pounds heavier. I mean, the scale was up there and then I put the, by the time I delivered my second and I was really uncomfortable.

Yeah. You know, but I'm, I mean, your body is going to gain or not gain. Whatever it needs. I joke that I was like, I think most women have like a delivery wait that they like deliver it. So I delivered both of my babies at the exact same weight. Like the day I went to the hospital, I was like X number of pounds.

I was like, horrible. But if it makes you feel better, I gained 70 pounds. Oh my gosh. With both of my pregnancies and for anyone listening, don't do it. So, yeah. But I, I really think that your, that everyone is. Body, whether you eat a green vegan smoothie every day, or whether you eat, Chick-fil-A like I did, it's going to be hold on to as much as it needs.

Yeah. You know, to create a new life. And I it's. Yeah, it's just amazing. And when you add up all the things to of like, I mean, just the placenta can weight up to five pounds wow. With all of them, but with all the blood volume and stuff, right. Then a couple of pounds for the amniotic fluid, you know, the baby can be right.

I mean, up to a lot of pounds. Right. So, yeah. So I was really uncomfortable at the end, especially with the SPD and then all the pressure and stuff. Um, so did you get checked at the end? Like around like 38. Yeah. Did you do an internal chat? Oh yeah. And I was just like one or two centimeters and that was with my first two.

Just nothing significant. Um, this was a summer baby though. Uh, Georgie was born in August, so it was so hot. Okay. And I was swollen in, but I got to go to the pool a lot too. And the splash pads. Oh man. So I strapped on that maternity bathing suit and rocked it in with the cellulite and everything and just.

Go girl. Yes. Yeah. And we shouldn't care. No shouldn't care. And everyone was, I mean, everyone that I've would see, you know, like was there yeah. Supportive. Yeah. Let me rub your feet while your kids in the pool. Yeah. So that was nice. Um, let me just say too, when you're pregnant in the summer and you get in the pool.

Oh, doesn't it feel? So the best in the pool we go to is kept very cold to the point that it's like too cold, even when it's a hundred degrees outside. Yeah. But last summer it was perfect. So good. Okay, good. Yeah. Um, so tell me, so how was the end then? So those like that week leading up to, um, your labor and delivery.

So, so, um, it's interesting. I had my kids on the same gestational day. Okay. Um, so I was 39 weeks, six and four days. Okay. Five days. Whatever, because you had such a long labor on your first. It's hard to, I went into labor on the third on 39, three with the first and had them on the fifth. But, um, I went into, so I think this was about the same 39 five.

Yeah. Yeah. Okay. I woke up in the middle of the night with Teamable contractions and I was so ready. I had gone to the chiropractor I had on that ball. I had, I couldn't barely move, but I was trying to walk the stairs and just get things, you know, going, um, I. I have this little bunko group in Charlotte.

And, um, everyone was telling me to have sex, to get labor going. Um, and I went home from Bunco that night and I was like, honey, we have to do it. And we both said, We check it out. We couldn't do it. It was just too pregnant, you know, um, too pregnant and also too tired. Yeah. And so I was like, I have one do, but both of us were so desperate just to get this baby out.

Cause I was so uncomfortable, but we just couldn't bring herself to do it. So anyways, we tried some stuff, but you know, I, I don't know. So I woke up in the middle of the night. And I had terrible contractions and I was so excited. Um, so I just went upstairs to our guest room, um, to rest. So I didn't bother my husband.

Um, and next thing I knew it was like five o'clock in the morning and I had fallen asleep and the contractions were gone. So, um, and so this went on for two days. Okay. So, I don't know if it's called false labor or prodromal. Yeah. Um, so I mean, they were painful. I had to stop, I had to breathe. It wasn't, it was more than a Braxton Hicks contraction.

Um, and so this, they would happen for a couple hours and then they would stop and then they would come back and stop. Um, and I was miserable. Um, and the anticipation of it, you know, every time one of those contractions hits, Oh yes, this is it. And then an hour later they're gone. Oh my gosh. This baby is never going to count up.

I think what they don't tell you too, is that it is labor. It's just a different type of labor. Yeah. You know, so it is very common to have a prodromal labor where it does start and stop and you actually are making a lot of progress. So I think what we're going to get to is we're going to, I'm going to hear a story from you where you were making a lot of progress during those starting and stopping being, uh, uh, you know, productive, um, But the next day, um, let's see, we had gone to the pool.

Um, I did my jumping jacks underwater. Just try to get that head down. Um, try to get that cervix, you know, opening. Um, the next day I went to the chiropractor and got, uh, acupuncture. You know, and all these little spots, um, I also drank castor oil at the urging of a friend that really scared me to do, but I was so desperate.

I had to, I had to have this baby. So in one day I had shot my jumping jacks in the pool, had the acupuncture and another adjustment for that SPD and taking a castor oil. I hope he only took one dose of caffeine. It was one tablespoon with like a huge glass of orange juice. Um, I've never heard anybody mix it with that.

So I had a one tablespoon in the Talenti, double chocolate, fudge ice cream or something. Nope. Can't eat it anymore. Yeah, never. Yeah. So I chugged mine down and I was so scared about the side effects of it. But again, so desperate, I was just done. So, this was kind of like the perfect storm here. So I had the acupuncture in the morning.

I came home and did the, the castor oil. It was about noon. Um, I hadn't had a ton to eat that day, so I was okay. Taking a castor oil, knowing that there wouldn't be a lot coming out. Sorry, TMI. Um, so I'm sitting there. My son is in daycare. Okay. So he's at school. We call it, um, my husband's at work and. I'm sitting on the couch.

It's about two in the afternoon and I call my mom and I'm like, Hey, do you want to get a pedicure? Like we gotta get things moving along. And I'm also going crazy sitting here. You know, all my projects are done. I'm ready to have this baby. Um, she's like, yeah, sure. Let me call you back in an hour, calls me at three.

And I had like sat on the couch and had Netflix on and. I was like, no, she's like, Hey, I'm ready to go. Do you want to go? And I said, you know what? I'm, I'm just, I changed my mind. I'm here. I'm comfortable. I'm just going to stay home. Um, for now, we'll see what happens. So around four, my husband calls and, you know, who's going to pick, he's going to pick up our son from daycare.

Um, and I just said, honey, I can't do it today. I really need you to do it. Um, um, I'm gonna go ahead and order the inducer. From Hawthorne's this pregnancy really centers around food. I think it's Charlotte. Like we just have so many like staples of people's pregnancy. So, so husband went to get sun. I go, um, I think about getting the inducer and husband calls again, it's like four 45 as I'm like reaching for the phone to answer it and also call the pizza place.

I felt a pop. And I felt, uh, gosh, um, and I, it was my husband calling and before he could say anything, I said, my water broke. Now we're going to take a short break to just share a few things with you and we'll be right back with our guests. Hey guys, if you're enjoying this podcast, then I need your help to spread the word.

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I ran to the bathroom, um, and. More water came out like a lot. It was not a trickle. It was a complete, like the first with my first labor. Like they broke my water, but then my water actually like came out like an hour later. It was like that it was like, this was like all of your amniotic. Yeah. Yes, yes.

Okay. So it was very obvious, um, in my case that my water had broken and so he had come home, as soon as that water broke. Cave woman noises coming out of my body. Like you were in full on transition. Yeah. Skip, skip labor, like deep voice. Like can't speak. I called my mom because she was on call to watch our son.

Um, and the plan was that she was going to be with us again at the hospital. So she was going to take my son to their house, you know, get him fed, get him to bed and then come to the hospital. So I called her and she was okay. At a point that she was able to come right over. Um, and so it was kind of like the perfect little storm here.

And so I'm making cavewoman sounds my husband and my son walk in and my husband is like, stop with the sounds, because he never even saw that with your first. Right. Because right about when you got to that transition point was when you got the epidural with being the number one. So this was new for you and for your chest.

And so he's like, yeah, You're like are scaring, you're scaring her or the air three-year-olds you know, which by trying to like perk up a little bit. And I couldn't. Um, so at this point, like I had all of the postpartum supplies ready, like including like the adult diapers. So I had like put on an adult diaper to catch any additional fluid that might come out.

Um, so I'm like a hi. Yes, I had, I had showered that day, but I hadn't put on any makeup. I don't do anything. I had blow dried my hair. So it was just kinda like crazy. Um, and it didn't matter though, at this point, it didn't matter what, my first, I was like showering and blow drying and putting on makeup during labor.

This was like, I didn't know what day it was. I didn't know my name. Yeah. So you were like in very active labor in transition right away the beginning. And it was very. Scary. It caught me off guard. It caught everybody off guard. I think. So my mom came over, got our son. As soon as my mom was there, we were in the car and gone.

So it was, you know, I don't even know if we called the hospital. I guess we call the doctor on the way it's very, very blurry. Um, so we. Any other questions before I go on, I mean, I'm just sitting here with like bated breath. I'm like, Oh no, this is what I'm thinking right now. Did she make it to the hospital?

So I can't wait to hear the rest. Things have had not come into place as they did. Um, I would have had the baby at home or in the car. Um, no doubt. So, yeah. Four 45, the water broke by five 15. We're on the way to the house. Well, of course it's rush hour. We get there and we go up to the floor. Oh, I had, I had the adult diaper on and they also brought a towel with me.

And by the time and the whole ride on the way there, I can like barely sit my first labor, like. Very capable in the car. No problem. This one was like, I can't sit down and write you realize that you can sit down because that's the baby's head right there, right? Yeah. I couldn't let myself go there. You know?

And so I was very fearful this time. Um, the whole time I'm making these sounds mad, laughing at me. Cause he's like, Christian, you've done this before. You know, it's fine. And I said, no different. And I, you know, I said, Oh my God, what if I can't get the drugs? What am I going to get the drugs? You know, I can't do this.

Um, And I knew from those classes that, that I can't do this. Um, I felt so nauseous. Like the towel. I was like, kind of like gagging into the towel and I wanted to throw up and I was like, Oh my God, this is transition right now. Like I went from. Zero to 60 in minutes from our first interview, you were very scared about the ring of fire.

That was like your one thing that you were scared of. So, um, so we get to the hospital and I'm like contemplating, like my first again, first labor took a picture in front of the. W mothers in labor sign with a smile, you know, with makeup on this time, I'm like trying to throw up into a trash can outside of the hospital, you know, and not even carrying his around.

So we get to the elevator and like I'm like moaning and cable and noises and like holding onto the bar and the elevator. And there's another guy in the elevator with us and my husband and the guy, I think just like looked at each other and like shrugged, right. Laughed like. Whoa, this is real. So we get to the nurses station at the hospital and I'm like, leaned over.

Can't speak. My husband has to speak for me. And you know, they, the nurses, like they took their sweet time and I understand their skepticism, I guess. But. I don't know, this was very different. I would think we're hearing, sorry. I would think if they were hearing those guttural noises like that, they would know, you know, that it is go time.

Like there's no triage. Yeah. Yeah. Well, they did take me straight into a room. Oh, they did. Yes. But they, um, you know, I, I, you know, I was like, this is my second, or, you know, are you sure it's your water honey? I said, Yes. I have filled up like four diapers. So they take me into the room. They get, they helped me get undressed.

They test the fluid. Yes. That's the fluid. Um, you know, they get the IV going and I'm, I'm, uh, can't sit down on the bed. So they have to do like everything. I'm like standing up and I'm like, I want the birth ball. I want the bed up high so I can lean on it. Like I was, you know, yeah. Navigating everything like.

Do this now for me. And they're like, wow, this girl is coming in hot. You know, have they checked your cervix? No. Okay. So they, they get the, you know, I'm like, let's get the labs going for the, for the drugs. Um, because at this point you're like, I have to have the drone that messing with this. Yes. Only check me.

And she's like, Oh honey, you're a four. What. And it was like mind blown, you know, that emoji that's like the head exploding. I was like, there's no way right now I'm thinking like, is this the first time you've ever checked a cervix? Because I think that you got it, Rhonda is still to this day because nobody checked me again, um, at that time.

And so I wonder if it was wrong or if. I don't know. You you've seen much more of, well, I have seen women go from four to 10 and two contractions, so it is possible. Yeah. So, you know, I've got to go to the bathroom if you know what I mean? Like I'm moving from the toilet and moving to the birth ball. I can't even sit on the ball anymore.

And that really helped me with my first labor. So I was like the so different, so different that baby was so low. Yeah. Yeah. Finally the room kind of clears out. They get us all set up. I think I've got the things on. We get to the hospital about five 45. Um, and this is about six, six, 15. My husband's over there, like filling out paperwork and I'm like snapping on him.

Like, Hey, you paperwork, pen down. I need, you need you right now. Like do the hip thing. Like, I want you close to me. I don't want to be alone right now. Um, and, um, so he's like, okay, so then the contraction would pass and he would go back to it and I'd be like, Hey, no, do not leave my side. I need you. And this was five or 10 minutes.

We're at the time. Finally, I'm like, I need help. I need help. I need help someone help me. And he's like, should I get a nurse said, yes. So at this point they haven't given you any medicine. No, they said, well, they took the blood cause they have to take the labs to see platelets or something. Um, so it does take time and I understand that, but I had made it very known, like, let's do this as fast as possible because I can't deal with this.

And so, um, he goes to get the nurse and this is. Six 20. Okay. Water broke at home four 45. Okay. Nurse comes in and she's like finger wagging in my face. Like you need to calm down. This is your only four centimeters, you know, whatever. As soon as she walks in the room, that second time, I was like, my I'm sure.

My face changed. Like, you know, that. This makes me laugh so hard. This is so DMI. I can't believe I'm sharing this. He doesn't look that a toddler gets when they're going number two in their diapers. Yes. My face made that face and I think she's definitely saw that in my face that you were pushing, I was bearing down.

Yeah. It felt like a bowling ball was coming through. Um, but I will say it didn't hurt. It was just massive amount of. Pressure and weight, it felt like, yeah. And what do you feel like a bowling ball was coming out, coming through? Like if you had to poop. Yeah. Really. And you were pushing with it. I couldn't help it.

Yeah. Total, I think you tell the ejection reflex. Yeah, exactly. Totally instinct. You have no control over it at all. Yeah. And I was standing up. Um, and so to joke sometimes when they say stop pushing and you're like, um, it's a natural reclaiming. I couldn't stop it if I, my life depended on it, you know? Um, so she saw the look on my face and she goes, get on the bed right now.

And I said, I cannot move. I cannot, I don't want to lay, I don't want to sit. And I also cannot move like I'm, I'm frozen. Yeah. Um, so the nurse said, I need to check you because if this is the baby, I need help. You know, I need to know, I need to let the powers that be know, and it's like six 30, it's almost shift change right.

For the nurses. So I'm sure they just loved me. Right. So, um, I get on the bed and she texts me and yep. This is it. And like, this is the baby in this, this is happening, you know? And so I had this went from four, maybe to 10 in 45 minutes. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Um, and. Were you, was there a moment where you were like, but no, they haven't put that Daryl in or were you just not thinking about anything at that point when I felt that ejection reflex bowling balls?

Yeah, I knew. And I had already like mentally accepted that I was going to do it without. Yeah. Um, I from taking these classes and from doing all this reading and listening to birth stories and that kind of thing, like I knew it would be okay at this, at that point, once I knew what was happening, I was okay.

Yeah. I kind of like went into myself as they people say, but that really did happen. Um, I remember kind of like laying on the back on the bed and like, uh, I did say I don't want to lay out. I want to get on hands and knees or I want to stand and they wouldn't let me. And I think that a doula or someone else who had been there maybe to advocate a little more would have fought for that a little harder, but I didn't have it in me, you know?

Yeah. To do it. I actually had a delivery last week, um, where we arrived at the hospital complete, ready to push in. The first thing they said was get in the bed. And we were like, hell no, no squat this baby out on the floor. And now I totally understand that that would be so much better. Yeah. But again, I didn't have it in me to fight.

So I just like sat on the bed and they get it all broken down and whatever. And the doctor comes in and I had a great doctor, um, a woman who had kids. And so that helped me to, um, but at this point I had gone into myself, the contractions had stopped, so there really wasn't a lot of pain. Um, and you know, and that is so normal.

And I think that people don't realize like, especially if they have inductions and like it's a contraction pattern, but when you have a natural childbirth, you have very long periods without any contractions at all. It's like, your body gives you this natural rest period rape before it's go time again.

Yeah. So you're kind of experiencing that and that was amazing neutral, like long. Just kind of rest time. Yeah. And I remember, I remember laying back on the bed and like, my eyes were closed and I was like, like in total, like meditation almost, you know? Um, and so I knew what was going on. I have to happen.

And the doctor promised me two contractions in this baby's out, you know, five minutes and you're done and you're through and don't even worry about it. Like the only way out is through, but you can totally do this and it's going to be over fast. And I was like, you're lying your whole life. And then I came back to myself and said, you're all lying and it's going to take forever and I'm going to push for two hours and all this stuff.

And they said, no, you're really not. Cause the baby is. Yeah. Um, and so the next contraction hits, can you feel it? Yeah. Um, uh, it was fun. Okay. The memory is foggy, but, um, it was, they, I, yes, I did have a contraction and they made me push. They had me push, I guess. Um, but then they did what they didn't let me stop pushing.

Okay. You know, God, I needed you, Heidi. You know, I needed somebody there. Well, I'm going to guess right now. So on that contraction, did you push, keep pushing and push the baby out? I pushed out the head. Yes. Okay. Yeah. There's probably a reason why they said that. Okay. So if the monitor was on, um, I don't know, you may get to this in a minute.

If the cord was wrapped or anything like that. Not that I know of. So, um, but if they tell you to keep pushing, keep pushing, keep pushing it's because they're going to fully deliver the head and then we're going to take a break. And then they're probably going to deliver the shoulder and the rest of the VA on the next construction, but we don't want to get that head compressed, just kind of stuck in the middle.

So I'm going to kind of guess for your doctor, because I'm not your doctor, but I'm going to kind of guess that they were just saying like, um, you know, get the head all the way through, then you'll have a break. And then on the next. Push or contraction, they'll get the shoulder in the rest of the baby out.

That's exactly what happened. And so the head was born and I never filled the room. Yay. Thank you, listeners. You know, and I had a second degree tear and I didn't feel that either. Yeah. So you natural, when you have a natural childbirth, you naturally kind of go numb because of like bearing down all the blood and all that.

Yeah. So that's exactly what I experienced. Um, so yeah, so you have two really amazing bird, this one long and, you know, medicated, but you made really good choices for your body, like at all the right times. And then this really like, they call it precipitous if it's less than four hours. So a really fast precipitous birth, you know, from an abrupt water break, instill like a beautiful bird.

It was, it was wonderful. Yep. Yes. So special. So on this one, did your husband get to cut the cord again? He did. And he also didn't know what we were having and he was convinced it was a girl. And so when a boy came out, he goes, Oh my God, it's another boy. Oh my goodness. I love it too. You have my heart so fast, just like me.

It's amazing. Yep. Well, Kristin, thank you so much for being on the podcasting 80. So for two different episodes, because you have such different birth stories, there's so much education for, um, Moms that are listening to learn from you. So thank you for being on. And then I asked you on the last episode about your favorite baby product, which was this awesome, like zipper sheet.

So for your second baby, did you have a different baby product that was kind of your favorite that you could think of? Still have the sheets? I did a lot more. Babywearing the second time around. Okay. Um, yeah, so I had all kinds of the different gadgets for the baby wearing, but big deal on the second kid.

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